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Wednesday, April 15, 2009

More bad news....

Wow, this title is becoming a regular title in my blog. Of course, seeing as I've been in a great place lately and accepting things as they come and keeping myself busy there has to be something to bring it down. I contacted the agency yesterday because I had read that the wait was not extended and I wanted to hear it from them to make sure. I received an email response this morning explaining that they are currently working on May 08 dossiers, which makes my 8-10 month waiting now 11+ of waiting. It's just so hard to maintain high spirits when you keep getting extended, in 4 months it's been extended by 4 months, makes me wonder what the time line will be once I actually get close to October/November of this year. I have been fighting an internal battle with myself all day to stay strong and keep smiling but it's hard. So instead I had a good cry and ruined the whole day, at least now I can move on and keep smiling...:) Tomorrow is a new day with a beautiful sunshine.




10 comments:

Rana and Yvan said...

Oh Natalie, My heart breaks for you...I know all to well what it feels like when you get the news of "a little longer wait"...when you set your sights on a certain time and it gets extended it feels like the rug was pulled out from under you.

Keep smiling - it helps, but when you feel like crying or screaming let it out.

Rana

Cara said...

We keep getting asked by friends and family if there's news...so I guess we'll be waiting a bit longer. Thanks for passing on the info.

Adam said...

It is hard not to get discouraged, we spent our fair share of time being discouraged. The important thing to remember is that it is going to happen. When we started the time line was 6-9 months and it took almost 18 months. Once I saw my son's face, that pain and disappointment was in the past.Just keep repeating that it will happen!! ( and be sad when you need to be sad)

K_I_T_ said...

Oh, been there with the call to the agency. I had a post that is almost the same as your, 6 months ago.. I know it's hard when you get your timeline, and keep tickin off months, and then you take a few step backwards...I wish I could be so encouraging and give you some great words of advice, but I feel the same way as you.

BCMommy said...

I totally agree. When we started the course work for our adoption, last June, we were told 3-6 months. When we started the homestudy last September, it was 6-8 months. When we finished that in December, 8-10. Like you, our case worker just told us it is now 11 months. Our dossier is only at Foreign Affairs, not even in Ethiopia yet! So I'm thinking by the time it gets there, we need to think that when we hit 11 months, they will tell us it is going to be 18 months. Whatever. I guess the good thing is that more and more people are adopting from Ethiopia, so more and more children are being welcomed to forever families, which slows down our process because courts and baby homes are full. In the long run, babies are being given a second chance. I know it SUCKS because we have to wait an eternity, but it will be so worth the wait! Stock up on wine and chocolate! I'll be drinking right along side you, just several months behind!

Carolyn said...

It is terrible when each time you think you are near the end the "end" moves further away. I know that it feels like a kick to the gut. Do what you need to do to hang in there!

Carolyn

The Mannings said...

hugs to you

The Warren Family said...

I know how you feel...I am feeling sad about the wait as well, and worried that it continues to grow. It is at least comforting to talk to other people in the same situation. Hang in there,

Chad, Laura and Sara said...

Gosh, I know getting this kind of news can really suck.

Did you get my email reply a couple week ago? It would be fun to connect when you are in Winnipeg. Let me know your plans so we can try to make something happen.

Laura

darci said...

argh, i know how you are feeling..it seems so crazy that the time just keeps getting extended. hang in there!