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Tuesday, April 19, 2011

Happy Birthday to the First Man in my life



My Dad, always there for me no matter what I need or when I need it. Full of great advise throughout our lives, whether it was asked for or not. I have learnt so many of my life lessons from my dad. He is always supportive of our ideas or life journeys. He is a big part of our everyday life. Although we don't live in the same town most of the year and may not be in the same town for a large part of the year we are always in contact. Something I would not be able to imagine my life without. I am who I am because of my parents.

I thank you everyday for all you do and have done for me and I thank god to have been blessed with you as my father.


I love you. Happy Birthday, and Cheers to many more fun filled healthy years ahead. xoxo

Sunday, April 17, 2011

Reality

Why is it that realitynever fails to contantly come back and hit you when you just start to put it aside. We have been doing so well with this new journey, waiting almost 6 stress free months, no new rules everyweek, no feeling of uncertainty, just waiting, day by day. Getting up every morning, thinking is today the day, and realizing at night that it may not have been the day but it was one day closer to the day. I know, great attitude, right? But then sitting here on a snowy, cold spring day alone with my thoughts and feelings and the reality of the pain comes creeping back up. The hurt that we feel for not being parents yet, the hurt of the emptiness inside. I've been struggling with the lump in my throat all day, trying to fight the reality of not being a parent yet and finally I lost the battle. Luckily, the breakdown only last minutes now, unlike my days of full on breakdown, but the pain is still there. Dealing with reality of the wait is getting easier as the months go by, however the reality of the doubt that "this may not happen, why would someone pick us" also comes back when you least expect it. Having passed my moment, the pain has subsided and I am now ready to deal with the reality of waiting again, waiting months and months for the birth mother of our son to choose us to be the parents of her child. The reality of not knowing what day it will happen, and how long we have to wait. However, the biggest reality of all is that our dream is waiting to be fulfilled everyday, and our love for our son grows with every hit of reality.

Wednesday, April 13, 2011

Good Luck Steph and Robert

I have friends leaving for Ethiopia this Friday to meet their future daughter and hopefully successfully pass court and have her become their legal daughter. I wish you all the luck in the coming week and am sending you as many positive vibes as I can't. xoxo

Monday, April 11, 2011

Seattle 2011


Although Chris grew up in Ontario, he has always been a big Seattle sports fan, cheering on the Mariners and the Seahawks for years, never thinking he would live close enough to Seattle to actually attend a life game. So when we moved here it was definitely on his wish list. We received free tickets to a Seahawk game this past season but were unable to attend. We haven't really been anywhere since we began the adoption journey and always feel guilty when we spend even a dollar on something now adoption related, but we saved our pennies and off we went to Opening Night of the MLB season in Seattle. The trip was quick but being only 4 hrs away we had to go and had a wonderful time. It was so nice to reconnect again as a couple having fun. Adoption tends to take over your life and you don't think of anything else, however it is so important to remember each other and take the time to appreciate each other as well. I can't wait to go again, and hopefully we will have Q to come with us. Here our some pics of the trip.

Opening Night

Chris in the owner's box during our tour Here I am on the field Outside of the field Chris in the dug out looking like a Pro

Chris calling out the pitcher...well pretending to anyways.


Looking like he belongs and looking good all at the same time.

Chris on the field The Moose mascot poking through.First night our seats were high up but second night we were on lower level with a much better view.

Ready to go cheer them on...they didn't win all weekend but we still had a blast. We hope to be able to do it again soon.

5 Months



I missed the last few months of posting the month milestone but I look at that as a good thing. I look at it as we are ready for Q to arrive any day but we are not dwelling on the pain everyday. Life goes on knowing he will be in our hearts sometime soon and we can't wait. We also feel like the WILL actually happen someday, which is the big difference between this adoption and our Kaysen adoption. With our Kaysen (Ethiopian) adoption we always felt like things had to happen NOW as they may be taken away at any minute but with this adoption for Q we feel confident that it will happen, therefor we are able to somewhat relax about it. Don't get me wrong we are super excited and anxious but it's completely different. It's actually not a bad experience this time. Why we had to go through what we did with the Kaysen adoption we will never know but we know that the day we get to hold our son will be the day that we understand. Hopefully that day comes sooner than later.
Almost two years after our world came crashing down see post here the directors of Imagine Adoption have finally been charged. What this may mean for the long run we aren't sure, I personally would love to see them suffer in jail thinking every long day and night of the pain they have caused to so many families and of all the children that are still sitting in orphanages because of the delay their greediness has caused. We are pretty sure the money situation will not change and that we still won't see a thing however having them behind bars would be a sweet feeling. They are to appear in court next month and I will keep you all posted of the outcome. Thank you all for your continued support. People like the people charged in this case are truly unbelievably cold hearted people, why they exist we don't know or never will know but they are horrible people and unfortunaltey they effected us in our journey to parenthood. Although we have moved to a new adoption journey then Ethiopia we have felt and still feel the pain caused to us everyday. Here's to justice being served for all of us.

Directors charged with defrauding adoption agency of $420,000 ANNA MEHLER PAPERNY Globe and Mail Update Published Friday, Apr. 08, 2011 11:23AM EDT

The founder and general manager of an international adoption agency are accused of defrauding the agency of hundreds of thousands of dollars almost two years after trustees first found “questionable” spending in its records.

Cambridge, Ont.-based Imagine Adoption, which matched up Canadians with orphans from Ghana and Ethiopia, declared bankruptcy in July, 2009, leaving hundreds of families in adoption limbo.

Now, the agency’s founder, Susan Hayhow, and its general manager, Rick Hayhow, are charged with breach of trust and multiple counts of fraud, totalling more than $420,000.

Police allege the frauds took place between January, 2007 and the agency’s bankruptcy declaration. During that time, police say, money paid for adoption services was spent on international vacations, renovations to the couple’s shared home in Cambridge, food and clothing.

The charges are cold comfort to the families, many of whom have moved on or tried to adopt through other avenues.

But it raises questions about how an agency involved in the increasingly lucrative business of international adoptions, whose license was renewed multiple times by the Ontario government, could have operated for so long with its financial irregularities unnoticed.

International adoption has become a multi-billion-dollar global industry; children’s advocates argue it’s under-regulated and ripe for abuse.

Ontario has “some of the most comprehensive international adoption licensing requirements in Canada,” said Anne Machowski, a spokeswoman with the Ministry of Children and Youth Services. Imagine Adoption, which was first licensed in 2005, had its license renewed annually.

“Why hasn’t the Ontario government yet taken responsibility for their failure to properly monitor an international adoption agency?” said Ingrid Phaneuf, who had been waiting for adoptions from the agency. Ms. Phaneuf has since adopted two boys, eight and 10, from Ontario.

Children and Youth Services Minister Laurel Broten wasn’t available for comment Friday, Ms. Machowski said.

Since the Imagine Adoption case, the province has strengthened its licensing process: It now requires an audited financial statement, an annual report available to the public and a report from the board of directors that outlines agency operations and activities.

“When the Ministry became aware of the difficulties concerning Imagine Adoption we acted quickly and immediately,” Ms. Machowski said in an e-mail, adding that the province worked with BDO Dunwoody to help families affected and ensure the agency’s orphans in Ethiopia were safe. (The orphanage Imagine Adoption was working with in Ghana, which the Canadian agency did not operate, was shut down by the Ghanaian government over allegations of child-trafficking right around the time of Imagine Adoption’s bankruptcy declaration.)

Susan Taves, the BDO Dunwoody trustee charged with handling Imagine Adoption’s bankruptcy and restructuring in 2009, says spending irregularities at the agency were apparent when she began going through its financial records.

“It was clear from our banking review there was some really questionable stuff,” she said. This included travel to the United States and renovations that clearly hadn’t been done on Imagine Adoption’s Cambridge office. But Ms. Taves said she wouldn’t expect the province to have noticed that.

“Licensing is like issuing a license for someone to be a car salesman: They’re not going to be in there every day to see if the price of cars is going up or down,” she said. “This is an operating issue I think it would have been difficult for a licensing body to see.”

Mr. and Ms. Hayhow are on record as having declared personal bankruptcy in 1996, with $165,712 in declared liabilities. The couple bought a house on Roseview Avenue in Cambridge in 2004. It was sold for $417,000 in 2010.

When Imagine Adoption declared bankruptcy, the couple owed money to a swimming pool business, a home-renovation contractor and a landscaper who confirmed the work was done at Ms. Hayhow's private residence.

Imagine Adoption has since restructured and is technically operational, although its adoptions are being run by Mission of Tears in Toronto.

For board member Christine Starr, things turned out all right: Her 19-month-old daughter Soleila arrived from Ethiopia in December.

“I would do it all again in a heartbeat.”

With reports from Celia Donnelly and Jennifer MacMillan

Justice May Be Served...Finally

Almost two years after our world came crashing down see post here the directors of Imagine Adoption have finally been charged. What this may mean for the long run we aren't sure, I personally would love to see them suffer in jail thinking every long day and night of the pain they have caused to so many families and of all the children that are still sitting in orphanages because of the delay their greediness has caused. We are pretty sure the money situation will not change and that we still won't see a thing however having them behind bars would be a sweet feeling. They are to appear in court next month and I will keep you all posted of the outcome. Thank you all for your continued support. People like the people charged in this case are truly unbelievably cold hearted people, why they exist we don't know or never will know but they are horrible people and unfortunaltey they effected us in our journey to parenthood. Although we have moved to a new adoption journey then Ethiopia we have felt and still feel the pain caused to us everyday. Here's to justice being served for all of us. Directors charged with defrauding adoption agency of $420,000 ANNA MEHLER PAPERNY Globe and Mail Update Published Friday, Apr. 08, 2011 11:23AM The founder and general manager of an international adoption agency are accused of defrauding the agency of hundreds of thousands of dollars almost two years after trustees first found “questionable” spending in its records. Cambridge, Ont.-based Imagine Adoption, which matched up Canadians with orphans from Ghana and Ethiopia, declared bankruptcy in July, 2009, leaving hundreds of families in adoption limbo. More related to this story Fraud investigation into adoption agency begins •Board questions adoption agency's expenses •We just want to bring our son home Now, the agency’s founder, Susan Hayhow, and its general manager, Rick Hayhow, are charged with breach of trust and multiple counts of fraud, totalling more than $420,000. Police allege the frauds took place between January, 2007 and the agency’s bankruptcy declaration. During that time, police say, money paid for adoption services was spent on international vacations, renovations to the couple’s shared home in Cambridge, food and clothing. The charges are cold comfort to the families, many of whom have moved on or tried to adopt through other avenues. But it raises questions about how an agency involved in the increasingly lucrative business of international adoptions, whose license was renewed multiple times by the Ontario government, could have operated for so long with its financial irregularities unnoticed. International adoption has become a multi-billion-dollar global industry; children’s advocates argue it’s under-regulated and ripe for abuse. Ontario has “some of the most comprehensive international adoption licensing requirements in Canada,” said Anne Machowski, a spokeswoman with the Ministry of Children and Youth Services. Imagine Adoption, which was first licensed in 2005, had its license renewed annually. “Why hasn’t the Ontario government yet taken responsibility for their failure to properly monitor an international adoption agency?” said Ingrid Phaneuf, who had been waiting for adoptions from the agency. Ms. Phaneuf has since adopted two boys, eight and 10, from Ontario. Children and Youth Services Minister Laurel Broten wasn’t available for comment Friday, Ms. Machowski said. Since the Imagine Adoption case, the province has strengthened its licensing process: It now requires an audited financial statement, an annual report available to the public and a report from the board of directors that outlines agency operations and activities. “When the Ministry became aware of the difficulties concerning Imagine Adoption we acted quickly and immediately,” Ms. Machowski said in an e-mail, adding that the province worked with BDO Dunwoody to help families affected and ensure the agency’s orphans in Ethiopia were safe. (The orphanage Imagine Adoption was working with in Ghana, which the Canadian agency did not operate, was shut down by the Ghanaian government over allegations of child-trafficking right around the time of Imagine Adoption’s bankruptcy declaration.) Susan Taves, the BDO Dunwoody trustee charged with handling Imagine Adoption’s bankruptcy and restructuring in 2009, says spending irregularities at the agency were apparent when she began going through its financial records. “It was clear from our banking review there was some really questionable stuff,” she said. This included travel to the United States and renovations that clearly hadn’t been done on Imagine Adoption’s Cambridge office. But Ms. Taves said she wouldn’t expect the province to have noticed that. “Licensing is like issuing a license for someone to be a car salesman: They’re not going to be in there every day to see if the price of cars is going up or down,” she said. “This is an operating issue I think it would have been difficult for a licensing body to see.” Mr. and Ms. Hayhow are on record as having declared personal bankruptcy in 1996, with $165,712 in declared liabilities. The couple bought a house on Roseview Avenue in Cambridge in 2004. It was sold for $417,000 in 2010. When Imagine Adoption declared bankruptcy, the couple owed money to a swimming pool business, a home-renovation contractor and a landscaper who confirmed the work was done at Ms. Hayhow's private residence. Imagine Adoption has since restructured and is technically operational, although its adoptions are being run by Mission of Tears in Toronto. For board member Christine Starr, things turned out all right: Her 19-month-old daughter Soleila arrived from Ethiopia in December. “I would do it all again in a heartbeat.” With reports from Celia Donnelly and Jennifer MacMillan