Adoptive Mothers

I was cleaning my office today and came across this great piece , so I thought I would share with you all.

Adoptive Mothers

Being an adoptiove mother is not for every woman. She must possess not only the natural mother instrinct but an understanding and appreciation of the situation that brought a child into her amrs making her a mother. The adoptive family comes to be by choices made, choices made by the first parents and by the adoptive parents. The bond the adoptive mother has with her child grows over time, just like the child grew within his first mother's womb.

Day by day, touch by touch, with each tear, kiss and memory made they become a family. Adoptive mothers have that special knack to let love grow.

Adoptive mothers know that they are a mender of wounds, not just of the physical skinned knees with a band-aid and a kiss, but of the heart as well. They give love, acceptance, and permission to ask and talk to their child about the day they were born and of their first family.

Adoptive motehrs are embracers, not only of the child with many hugs and kisses, but of the child's heritage and history. They embrace the facts of their child's past with strength for themselves and their child. They are not only memory makers planning family vacations, activities and birthday parties, but are also memory keepers.

They are a tier of shoelaces and hearts. They weave lives together into a tapestry of a new family, with many different brightly colored threards showcasing their individualities and family orgins. Together they create one unit attached to each other.

Adoptive mothers are experts at finding lost objects, but understand and validate the profound deep loss left by adoption. They allow the tears to fall and grief to be felt, allowing the mounrning of the family that is no longer there. They are secure in knowing that they are not a replacement, but a finisher of a race for someone who, for whatever reason, could not run any longer.

This role is not for the weak spirit, or the easily wounded. Loving a child not born to her but calling him her own, as this is what she does, it is her calling....She is a MOTHER.

Michael Jackson----RIP

(August 29 1958 - June 25th 2009)

On June 25th 2009 a music icon passed away. Although Michael has made some bad choices in his life and has been accused of horrible horrible acts, he must also be remember for the music Icon he was. There has never been another Michael Jackson and there never will be. His infulence on music, generation after generation is something only someone with a true gift can provide. Unfortunately with the gain of fame came a loss of oneself. I feel for his children and hope they will be treated as individuals in the years to come. No doubt that he became strange as the years went on, but the music and gift was and will always be there.

RIP Michael, you will always be remembered.

7 Months....

Wow, 7 months, I remember being at 1 week and wishing I was at 6-7 months and here I am. When I started waiting I was suppose to be getting a referral around 8-9 months but now it looks like it will be closer to 12 months before we get a referral, so 7 months is only an another month, although it's another month come and gone it's still only another month. I'm still in a great place with the adoption but find myself struggling when I'm with my new nephew Owen. I love him like crazy but he brings up alot of emotions that I thought I had over come. He will help me get stronger as the months go by and I just have to keep telling my self that my time will come.... some day.

Here are a few pics from my last visit.

Baby Owen sleeping.

Matante Nat and Baby Owen resting.

Here I am with Maddux, relaxing on a great summer deck

Girls Weekend with Stephanie

This past weekend I went to Toronto to meet up with my friend Steph, a friend I met on this wonderful journey and I have I now have for life. Although this is one of the hardest things I've been through in my life meeting friends like Steph and many others have made it special. It was so nice to meet someone and be able to just be ourselves right from the start, as if we have known each other our whole lives. Thank you Steph for a great weekend and for being such a great and dear friend. Love ya.

Here we are just leaving to go shopping. Getting ready to leave for dinner, it was Steph's birthday. We went to the Mandorin it was yummmmmy. Steph, disappointed that she didn't get her birthday cake and song....

Steph, two seconds later, with her birthday cake, however they did miss the song.

Here we are shopping for a stuffy that match for our future children, they are great as we can now name a star after them.

We did ALOT of shopping, had some great food went to a movie and just had lots of laughter, fun and chatting. Something we must do again soon.

Introducing Owen Lucas Beaudry

Last Saturday, June 6th 2009 at 12:54pm my nephew Owen Lucas Beaudry was born weighing 7.12 lbs measuring 51 cm. He has redish hair and so far big blue eyes. My sister and I drove down and got to see him when he was about 5 hrs old. He is super cute and although it was a very hard day emotionally and I wanted my son more than anything, I have gotten through it and now miss Owen every day. I can't wait to see him again next weekend. Here are some pics of the little one. Enjoy.

Ren and I leaving to go see him.

Matante Renee holding Owen for the first time.

Matante Nat holding baby Owen for the first time. His eyes were open the whole day that day.

The happy family. My brother Denis and sister in law Laura. Congrats to you both and thank you for the nephew.

Proud Memere holding Owen, look how small he is.

Proud Pepere holding Owen and wearing his Grandpa hat and tshirt. He is so cute.

Our first sight of Owen.

3 generations of Beaudry men. Owen will be the first Beaudry of this generation to carry on the Beaudry name. Look how proud my dad looks. I just love it.

This is Owen the second day, all he did was sleep, it was to exciting for him on the first day.

The siblings with baby Owen. (sorry for cutting off part of your head Den)

May 31st 2009 "SNOW DAY"

i'm a little behind on my posts so here is a quick update of life this past month.
On May 31st we woke up to snow....YEP I SAID SNOW, big fluffy snow. Here are some pics.

Maddux in his glory, he rolled and rolled and rolled.

View from the back fence. (that is my new deck you are seeing as well)

View from patio doors. It was depressing but was all gone by mid morning.

Maddux

I've had some inquiries about my dog Maddux and his recovery. We have been so busy lately with the new job, travelling, renovating and taking care of Maddux that I haven't had the time to post. First off, I would like to thank you for your concerns and comments of well wishes. So far he is recovery nicely, it's been a large inconvenience to the whole family as he can't go up stairs therefor one of us has to stay with him on the main floor every night, I'm hoping to be able to sleep in the same bed as my husband again someday...lol we are now at 5 weeks post op and only have 3 months to go before our life is somewhat back to normal. He will be going in for xrays in 3 weeks to see how the bone is healing. It's hard to see him confined to an area all time as he was such an active dog, but Ziggy keeps him occupied and us worried by playing with him.

So that's my update for now. Thanks again for asking.

Baby Beaudry is coming today!!!!!!!

Today is the day my brother's son will be born. My sister in law went into labour last night, just after midnight and is now 8cm dialated (11am) so he should be here shortly. My parents left early this morning as he lives 3 hrs away and my sister and I will be leaving this afternoon. This is the first nephew on my side of the family and the first baby on our side in 13 yrs, so it's pretty exciting. I can't wait to meet little Owen Beaudry.

Happy Birthday little man, matante is on her way. xoxoxo