Chris and I just returned from Cambridge, for a week of intense PRIDE (Parent Resources for Information Development and Education) Training. Wow, what a course. Prior to this week I thought, "ok, just go and take it as it's something that needs to be done" and figured I knew everything....well I was WRONG. Chris and I learned so much this past week. We were in a class of great people with great teachers who we planned to stay in touch with throughout our journey. The training allowed us to learn and open our eyes to many different challenges that may come along once our little guy gets home. Prior to the training I felt very treatened by the birth parents in all forms of adoptions, I now realize how truly important they are to the process and would love to explain it to you all should you want to discuss further. We also learned that it is okay for our son not to "Fall in love" with us right away, I mean he won't know who we are at all, and that is okay, we will simply have to do different things with him to allow him to feel comfortable with us and eventually with a lot of hard work and commitment and consistency our family will be just as bonded as a birth family. I just can't wait to put it all together and share the events with you all. There is so much about this training that I could go on for days, but I won't. I just want to say that I truly feel it is a very important course to take and will be a forever advocate of future adoptive parents in taking this training. I would like to take this moment to thank our trainers for the wonderful teaching they provided us this week.
We had our FINAL home study done this morning as well. It was short and sweet, just as I like it. We are now reviewing the home study report, well what is completed so far anyways, and once our adoption practioner is done completely we will review it again, sign the paper work and off it goes to the Ministry for approval. We hope to have it sent by the middle of this month and then hopefully it is back to us by mid Nov..
I do feel sad at this point as I feel I no longer have any control of the next years mild stones. At least when we had the home study I had certain dates to look forward to, now I have a 6-8 week or 6-8 months and that's it. as all of you who know me well, I will find it quite hard not to know when things will happen. The good thing is, that I realize now that I am not the only one going through this and with the support of our new adoptive families and our family and friends here, i'm sure things will go easier.
I'm guessing i've said enough for today.
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We agree completely with everything you said. The ladies who ran the course were amazing and the other parents super nice.
Thanks for keeping us posted. It was nice to meet some friends of Ted's (not just other coppers) and we wish you the best of luck.
Take care,
Patricia and James
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